In a heartbreaking development during Season 4 of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, Mikayla Matthews and her husband, Jace Terry, have announced their separation. The couple, who married in 2018 shortly after the birth of their first child, opened up about the profound strain placed on their marriage by long-standing intimacy issues and Mikayla’s ongoing battle with chronic illness.
The Core Conflict: Trauma and Healing
The separation stems from a complex intersection of physical health and past trauma. Mikayla has been candid with viewers about being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, which she explains has created significant psychological triggers regarding physical intimacy.
- Intimacy Triggers: Mikayla revealed that even simple acts like kissing can be more difficult than sex because of the high level of emotional intimacy involved.
- The “Nervous System” Barrier: During a tense discussion, Mikayla explained that her nervous system is constantly in “fight or flight” mode due to her health issues and trauma, leaving her with no emotional energy to commit to the intensive trauma therapy Jace requested.
- Chronic Illness: Mikayla’s health has also played a major role. While seeking stem cell treatment in Los Angeles, she expressed frustration that her physical state prevents her from having the motivation to “fix” her marriage.
Jace Terry’s Perspective: Seeking Connection
Jace expressed his own feelings of isolation during the season. While he stated he wants to be patient, he admitted to reaching a breaking point regarding the lack of progress.
“More than anything and more than the actual sex, I just want to feel like I can connect with my wife again. And I want to feel loved by my heart,” Jace told fellow cast member Conner.
Jace countered Mikayla’s decision to separate by suggesting that the real solution is a firm commitment to trauma therapy. He expressed concern that a separation without a plan for professional healing might not lead to a reconciliation.
What’s Next for the Couple?
The separation is currently framed as a period for Mikayla to “be selfish” and focus on her own healing without the immediate pressures of marital expectations.
- The “MomTok” Support: Mikayla noted that she is leaning heavily on her support system within the show’s cast, though she remains scared of losing Jace permanently.
- Co-Parenting: Despite the split, Mikayla emphasized that she does not want to be away from their children for even a single day, indicating that the two will likely continue to interact daily.
Resources for Survivors and Mental Health
If you or someone you know is struggling with similar issues, professional resources are available:
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): The nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization. Call 800-656-HOPE.
- Crisis Text Line: Text “STRENGTH” to 741-741 to connect with a crisis counselor.
- Psychology Today Therapist Finder: A tool to find specialized trauma and intimacy therapists in your area.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: Resources for those in high-conflict relationships. Call 800-799-SAFE.
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